Exhaustion, don’t take it lying down.
Anyone else’s kid’s hitting the wall right around now?
Are they exhausted, getting sick, falling apart, over it! It’s such a tough time of year.
Last week my daughter woke up, practically slept walk out of her room with big bags under her eyes and for the first time ever asked if she could have a day off school.
She told me later that day that she was surprised that I agreed to her taking a “wellbeing day” but I explained that I could see that she desperately needed that day, a day away from addition and subtraction, all the noise and school yard politics…
She stayed home and played the piano, watched her favourite shows, ate her favourite food, read books and lazed about all day. By the time evening rolled around she was herself again, pepped up and ready for her nippers training session.
I had given my daughter permission to relax every fibre of her being and, in doing so, reclaim her fight.
And that’s something I’ve found about self-care, we often need someone else to jump-start it for us.
Giving ourselves permission — to rest, to recharge, to realize self-indulgence isn’t actually self-indulgent at all.
This is a concept I know is especially hard for women.
We ALL need to remember to exhale….we’re all pushed to do too much, we all need a break. Kids and parents alike.
We don’t want our kids to learn from us that they have to work their butts of all the time until they burn out. We want them to tune in to what they really need and grant themselves permission to take a break.
As busy mums though, how do we take time out when we don’t seem to have five minutes to ourselves from sunrise to sunset?
Let me ask you an important question.
Has your busy-ness become the thing that defines you? Has it become a badge of honour?
Our culture has decided that we need to be Wonder Women and so we believe that being busy is what makes us worthy.
We need to SHAKE THIS IDEA OFF!
Because while we remain slaves to our to-do lists and exist in get-it-done mode, we are forgetting to live a meaningful and healthy life meant to be enjoyed.
How do I shake it off though Brenda? Who’s going to get it all done for me?
Well, I suggest you take a good look at your to-do list and make some honest decisions about what’s really non-negotiable and what you can say bye-bye to. Eg: Do you really need to organise those birthday photos into a special album? Or go to that event if no one is going to get hurt by your absence?
Find some support in the areas you feel like you could use some help, then decide who you can ask to support you in those areas. Eg: My mum comes over once every fortnight and I never say no to her bringing food for my family which usually lasts a couple days and creates some much needed time and space. Say YES to help!
I’d also love to invite you to join my FREE LIVE WORKSHOP,
I’ll be hosting it with my good friend Naturopath Naomi Judge on the 3rd December at 8.30pm and we’ll be exploring:
- Where this guilt comes from and why we feel it
- How lack of self-care creates stress and some serious health issues you shouldn’t ignore
- How you can get clear on a specific, urgent WHY, your sense of purpose, your capacity to fulfill your mission and do what brings you joy
- The telltale signs of stress (it’s not necessarily what you may think!)
- 5 easy ways to create sustainability and resilience in your life so you don’t become ill and burn out
- Plus time for live Q & A with us at the end
Please share this workshop with your friends, I have a sneaking suspicion they’ll be thanking you later!
Hope to see you there.